Wednesday, January 26, 2011

I Thee Wed.....Only if You Give Me a $10,000 Dollar Ring

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NIV)

Throughout history, probably until the mid-seventies little girls  were taught they must have a husband. It was not only what was expected of us, but it became an instilled value. We had to obey our mother's, so we went in search of Prince Charming.

We didn't know Prince Charming only existed in fairy tales, because our mothers brainwashed us. We continued our quest throughout the eighties when we thought our Mr. Right would come along and sweep us off our feet.

In today's social stage those little girls are now seasoned women, who without a doubt should know Prince Charming and Mr. Right are only figments of another time, a dream of our mothers who were sometimes stuck in a loveless, abusive relationship because they were taught they must obey their husbands.

Because of  the social conundrum created by our mothers today's little girl's believe in love with a price tag.
Unfortunately, innate values have been established as the norm and little girl's grow up believing if they get married (which is now a choice not an option) , my boyfriend in order to prove he really loves me must shower me with the most expensive engagement ring.

Love now comes with a price tag.  Our fore-mother's basically created a new society in which today's women can pick and choose. Love now equals money. Little girls watch television programs that promote this type of
behavior. A majority of  today's mother's encourage this type of behavior.

I am not saying it is not wrong to want what is best for our daughter's, but at what price?

Have we become our mother's by encouraging our little girl's to search for King Midas?

Unlike our mother's we should instill the value of  love does not wear a price tag. Love should come from the heart. 

There are no Prince Charming's, Mr. Right's or King Midas' without consequences. Only God can provide the perfect mate and only you can be willing to accept His direction without the acceptance of a dollar amount.


The Desert Rocks said...

Love your post. My manuscript is about a girl searching for her Prince who ends up in trouble because of it, while her sweet boyfriend, a carpenter looks everywhere for her-- by the time he finds her she's learned her lesson.

Debra Ann Elliott said...

Thanks. Your manuscript sounds fascinating.

shelly said...

Great post! Born in 1965, my mother pushed me always to marry. She even picked out my first two husbands. Being the first born, I sought to always please my mother. Those two relationships ended in disaster with five children to reap the scars.

Thanks for posting this.

Debra Ann Elliott said...



My mother was just the opposite. She never pushed, but then she never cared about who I married.

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